I’m telling on myself, as a business owner of B&C United Home Care, which is redefining senior care to be more pro-active vs. re-active. My theme is “Let’s Start Talking about Your Long-Term Care Plan.” I’ve spent thousands and thousand of dollars and spent years talking to payers and health agencies alike. They all agree, but similar to the melting caps, people believe, but aren’t really ready to make a plan of action.
My plight, baby-boomers are retiring. The magic number is 80 when the cost of care more than triples and our current health care system can not withstand the cost of those numbers. So we need to start thinking outside of the box about providing care.
So my guilt is running a company, being responsible for lives and getting bloody as I create a new paradigm of thinking. Needless to say that’s why I talk to a professional once a week. One of the interesting points she brought to my attention is the nature of guilt that we assign to ourselves. So I was not surprised to see this questions on AgingCare.com, my old friend Mr Guilty.
My advice to control Mr. Guilty:
I hear this story every day of the week. No one is made of money, so in end, its comes down to what we can afford and what we can not afford. So please, for those of you feeling guilty or struggling about creating the magical burial wishes for your loved ones, STOP! Love them and provide for them what you can while they are alive and in the end, if all you can afford is a free burial, then you have done well. Your loved one is in a better place and they completely understand. Don’t assign guilt and if you have please forgive yourself.
As for the guilt, STOP assigning it to yourself. Do what you can and what you can not, you just accept that you can not. Do not assign guilt, but assign it as, “It’s not meant to be.”
Remember the old saying, “What is meant to be, will be; what is not meant to be, will not happen.”
Stay Inspired,
Shonda
